Find the courage to speak your truth amongst the fear and anxiety
Summary
What: Have an honest, real, open, and tough conversation with someone
How Long: You only have to have one conversation and the topic of that conversation will depend on the level of difficulty you choose
Time Commitment: This challenge will take anywhere between 30 minutes and 2 hours to complete
What you will get out of it: You will push yourself out of your comfort zone and start to develop the skill of having tough and important conversations with people
When: You can start this challenge whenever you’re ready to start building a remarkable life
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Eliminate one critical, common, and significant roadblock to creating a remarkable life
There are many different challenges, barriers and issues you will face on your journey to creating a rich, rewarding, and remarkable life. Many of them will be unique to your situation and your vision, but there is one challenge that spans almost every journey: expressing your wants, needs, and desires.
Our society’s obsession with appearing altruistic and like you’re working for the common good of all humanity (rather than serving your own needs) has relegated expressing your wants and needs to the dirty category. It’s made it wrong.
This is not only stupid but completely counter-productive.
It’s stupid because it ignores the fact that everything you will ever do in your entire life is completely self-serving. Even if you’re doing things for other people, you’re only doing them because of what you get out of them.
And it’s counter-productive because unless you can fill your own wants, needs, and desires, you have to rely on others to do it. And so by not doing it and claiming that you’re working for the good of others, all you’re really doing is putting pressure on them to take care of you. But, at the same time, you’re not expressing your needs and so are making them responsible for filling your needs without telling them what you need! How is that a recipe for a good life?
Filling the hole
The simple solution to all of this complete mess is to take full ownership of your wants and desires and to learn how to express them. This is what the Tough Conversation Challenge will help you do.
Through the tough conversation challenge, you’ll develop the skill to express your wants, needs, and desires in a calm, productive, and effective manner and apply those tools in a challenging but achievable environment.
How to have tough conversations
The ability to have tough conversations isn’t a God-given talent, it’s a skill. And like any skill, it’s something you get better at the more you do it. This challenge is designed to make sure you have this skill in your quiver to be able to draw on it when you need. It will push you to start a tough conversation on a particular topic (depending on your choice of difficulty) so you start when the quality and direction of your life is on the line, you have some reference experience of how to go about it.
What’s in the challenge
The challenge itself will take as long as it takes to find the person you’re having the tough conversation with and to have the conversation with them. This could be anywhere between 30 minutes and a few hours (or even more). It all depends on how hard they are to find, what you need to work through, and how effective you are at working through that topic.
If you’re ready to develop this important life-transformation skill, click ‘Start Course’ in the top right-hand corner of this page. Once inside, you’ll get access to:
- A breakdown of the three levels of this challenge you can choose to take on
- A complementary challenge that will improve your overall success rate
- Access to the challenge forum where you’ll be able to chat with others taking this course, learn from their mistakes, and share your journey
- Instructions on how to make this process simpler and easier
Click ‘Start Course’ now to start transforming your life.
FAQ
My initial idea for the challenges was to make them free. After considering this for the three months it took to build the site, I realised it was far more beneficial for everyone interested in this course to pay $1 for two reasons.
The first reason is that by paying $1, it protects your personal information on the challenge forum from people who just want snoop around. The $1 paywall ends up blocking a lot of people who just want to read other people’s personal tales of misfortune and bots scraping information.
The second reason is that there is a significant psychological difference between signing up for a free program and paying money for one. When it’s free, you feel no obligation to engage with the information or take advantage of it. When you pay any money, yes, including $1, it shifts your perception of that content from something you can waste to something you need to take advantage of. You’ve paid money for it and therefore, need to use it.
Both these benefits outweighed the only negative of charging $1 – people who need help not getting access.
In saying that, there is still this negative and it’s one I’d like to address. So, if you’ve read this far and want to get access but genuinely can’t pay $1, just private message Leigh stating which course you’d like to access and why you can’t pay $1 and I’ll add you to the course. Don’t feel embarrassed. I grew up with nothing and so am happy to help those who have nothing and want to take control of their life.
Sure. If you read the challenge and don’t feel like there’s $1 worth of value in it, you can have your dollar back. I honestly don’t know what you expect to get for your dollar to be so outraged that you would demand it back, but if you do, that’s fine, and I’ll be happy to give you a full refund.
Focus on what matters
If you are afraid of having sincere conversations with people in general and want to change it, I recommend to read this article http://my.lifeoperatingsystem.com/how-to-improve-communication-skills/ and doing this challenge after it.
Before the challenge: I was insecure about a single event with my father, thinking about all the possible ways I made him feel bad and was unfair with him. I was lost in my thoughts and in my fears about an especific event that happened some years ago. I also didn’t have a relatioship with my father that was emotionally open.
After the challenge: I allowed myself to have my thoughts and insecurities and I’m looking for ways to see what reality has to say to me. It means doing what has to be done, being empatethic and open when having this kind of conversations. This challenge made me realize that when dealing with people, it’s better focusing on what reality is than focusing on what you think it is. Now I’m feeling connected with my father in a way that I haven’t experienced before.