So I’ve been reading & note-taking this weekend as I try to sort out some stuff for myself. I might have some posts or the start of a journal to share my notes soon but for now I wanted to ask some clarifying questions.
Spoiler alert- if you haven’t read the LifeOS Framework (and the other starter articles) you should probably read that now to get the full context and explanation of these points because I’m simplifying the hell out of this.
So anyway the LifeOS Framework basically says the following:
1. We’re driven to attain our desires.
2. Most people use an ineffective, externally focused method to attain their desires (Dependence).
3. Using an internally driven method of attaining desires (Independence) is a much more effective approach.
4. Ultimately all desires boil down to a core desire for Certainty.
Ok, all that mostly makes sense but here are a couple of questions:
- Independence is about tackling the barriers to your desires by focusing on the elements you control or influence (your thoughts, actions, words, decisions, etc) rather than the elements you can’t control. But does this mean you are independent of the Outcome as well? There seems to be an implied idea that you can be using Independence as a path of action, but still be Dependent on the outcome of the situation, which can obviously be frustrating/disappointing/etc as well.
- If that’s right, it seems that understanding that Certainty is ultimately what we’re looking for allows us to be Outcome Independent because we’re not trying to attain an outcome that is still outside our control but are now trying to satisfy a desire (and an outcome) that is completely within our control. In other words we can control the outcome because the positive outcome is achieved by the sheer fact of taking action, regardless of how the world responds to that action. Is that the idea?
The implied definition of Certainty is something like “knowing you can live life the way you want to now and into the future”.
So I can see how that could be a Core Desire behind other desires, even the huge desires that power religious/spiritual/political beliefs that shape peoples’ entire world views. And I can see how developing the experience of taking action with a more effective pathway would yield more and more positive feedback which, in turn, creates a greater sense of Certainty to attain the things you desire. But here’s one more question:
- On a practical level- let’s say a person desires a deeply fulfilling intimate relationship, a goal which is very much dependent on a mix of internal and external factors. How would using an Independent pathway to achieve Certainty eliminate the other challenges in attaining that outcome? Yes, it might allow you to focus on simply doing what you can do and giving you a sense of Certainty that you can take steps toward attaining your desires, but if you ‘fail’ to establish the relationship, it seems like you’ve still failed to fulfill your desire for that connection. Does that make sense?
I think that’s it for now. I’ve probably answered most of my own questions here but I thought it would be good to bounce off other people and see it from another angle.
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