Why is neediness a deal-breaker for women but not for men?

[Vaom]

Why is it that coming off as needy is something that women find so unattractive that it is a deal-breaker for them, but this is not so for men? I’ve noticed that with pretty much all the men that I’ve encountered, while they find neediness in women incredibly annoying, they will find a woman attractive despite this and will put up with a woman’s needy behaviour for quite a long time before ending a relationship (if ending it at all). Whereas the understanding I have with women (from this site and other places) is that neediness is not just very annoying but that it actually causes a guy to be very unattractive, so much so that they will never want absolutely anything to do with a guy who shows this neediness in the first place. Why is there this asymmetry in terms of accepting needy behaviour? Does this indicate that men are more accepting of (non-physical) personal defects?

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[Vaom]

Also, not only does this needy behaviour cause men to be unattractive, but it almost seems like women demonstrate a visceral hatred for men who display this behaviour, whereas at most men will just find this behaviour very annoying and exhausting if they see it in a woman.

[Maicon küster]

Dude, I don’t know if you’ve read this article, but read:

What Women Want: Female Psychology 101

[Jeff]

The article link you showed doesn’t work? 

[Leigh]

Just fixed up the link. Check it out now.

See if you can work it out. There enough in there to understand, but it’s also incomplete because the answer to your question has more to do with the individual than the gender.

See if you can work it out. If not, let me know and I’ll lay it out for you.

[Author]

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