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People figured out that right from days of “cave men” , men used to have a thing or two for visual stimulation . The walls of cave was carved with images depicting sex .But, it didnt stop there, the walls had images (carvings) related to bestiality too. so , it seems like its normal for men to find porn interesting.
But, at what point does porn become a problem. Let me list out some points that comes to my mind.
* The thing is , sometimes its the push “to pass the genes” that stir men to take action. When one watches porn and masturbates a lot to it, it kind of makes them tired and low. Plus, just like that, the food that many eat doesn’t nourish their body well. On top of this, if one keeps masturbating, and doesnt take the essential vitamins and minerals to support the body, they will slowly start feeling low. With less drive, one wont be that inspired to do things. So , this can be problematic.
* sometimes, the world around you is not going to encourage you to create a life that is good for you. In such a scenario, one has to focus their energy initially on creating a good life for them. Initially there might be some boredom, lack of excitement and adventure in life, so, in such a state, one might start using things that gives them some excitement and so on. In such a situation, one might start using porn a lot and this can be problematic, because, many wish that they did something exciting and adventurous in their own life ,so, using porn as a tool at this point might not be in line with your vision of creating a life that is filled with adventure , love, health, and so on.
lets say that you feel the desire to focus on things other than porn , now, you might wonder where to begin. so, let me list some points:
* try not to think of porn as ” something bad” that you have to overcome. Now, think about other things that you wanted to focus your energy on. for example, if you wished to have a good health or master running. then, do things that takes you there. Start focusing on things that will make your life wonderful day by day.
* The desire to watch porn will be there and its not about making this desire go away. In the first place, know why exactly you wanted to stop or reduce your time spent on watching porn. after knowing why, just remind yourself the same.Sometimes, in life , its about “trading one desire for another desire“. Maybe you desired to master your mind and therefore, you felt the desire to reduce the time spent on porn. Maybe you desired to spend more time on studying , so, you desired to reduce watching porn/ reduce masturbating. In such a situation , its helpful to increase your awareness on why you wanted to stop doing something ,plus, simultaneously, increase your awareness on what positive things the new habit will add to your life.
* You might feel as if you are an addict. But, know that , its just that, you found something interesting and exciting, so, you started using it a lot . And just like any other habit, you can start moving away from it if you wish to .
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