[Huy To Ryan]

Nice, I’m close to believe it’s becoming a post-apocalypse world here! Haha

I will be working through the courses “Uncover Your Core + Design Your Destiny”

On top of this, recently I have been working through No More Mr Nice Guy (by Rober A.Glover) + Transformation Mastery by Julien Blanc (an ex-PUA so to speak) + reading up more about Taoism

I am starting to feel like there are many overlaps between these sources and all coming together now to shape my so-called new worldview and philosophy. But it’s tough to apply them on a subconscious level consistently and many times I go back to my old ways of thinking

Example, recently I have discovered that I am still prone to approval-seeking behaviors, falling in love too easily + idolizing people (especially women – seeing them as distorted idolized versions in my head rather than who they truly are). It’s going to take a while for me to change haha.

In the meantime, the other aspects of my life are still good. I am still porn free and will start to spend more time on my hobbies. I also feel like my social circle is growing and my health improving

It’s good to connect! Maybe perhaps through Facebook. You can search for To Huy

Cheers!

[Huy To Ryan]

Hey, thanks to hear you are doing well.

>>>But all this typing and chatting is feminine from what I understand from this Leigh and his website, so I’m taking more action rather than talking about it.

Hey man, you are right about trying to focus on what you can control/contribute/change. This is the core message of LifeOS. Maybe you can start thinking of moving to a state where the racial divide is not so bad, or ignore the people who hate or do something else about it.

However, I don’t think it’s feminine to talk about it, whether it’s online or with a buddy. We are humans and sometimes if there are weights on our shoulders to be let off –> we need to do so. Mental health issues are a real thing. Also, if something makes you sad/angry, allow yourself to be fully sad/angry by diving into the associated body sensations instead of avoiding feeling them. The former way will let them run their courses and be gone in a few hours, while avoiding will only repress them and cause them to persist (you hang onto them)

>>>And I’m thinking about doing something that will be incredibly liberating, but is the scariest thing I might ever do

Let me guess: moving in with someone or even tie the know with that person? If yes, it sure as hell sounds scary

 

[Huy To Ryan]

Hey you both Luis and Anthony!

How are you doing 1 year later (after you last post)?

1) Anthony finished your book?

2) Luis killing it in the gym?

Let me know. I’m happy to connect!

Huy – from Singapore

[Huy To Ryan]

I am glad that the experience has lead to a motivation for you to get out there and face rejections head on in order to grow as a person

But I have different opinion about desensitizing ourselves to pain and sadness

Those are very natural feelings of humans, meant to be felt fully. Without feeling pain & sadness you will never get to experience pleasure and joy. Life exists in contrasts for a reason

It’s your resistance to feeling emotions that you label as “bad” (pain and sadness) is the very reason why they remain

[Huy To Ryan]

1) Try to overcome my inferiority complex and stop comparing myself to others so much
2) Overcoming porn addiction
3) Reducing amount of mood swings which I think stem from me getting/not getting what I want
4) Tools to overcoming my fears

Actually i alr did find many solutions to my problems on the site, just that applying them will take some time and a lot of effort. And my progress is kind of slow

[Huy To Ryan]

I would like to know the tools to help me overcome my all demons, namely:

1) Porn addiction

2) Fear and anxiety when it comes to doing things out of my confort zone

3)  Inferiority complex & Low Self Esteem, sometimes manifested through constant self-comparison to what other people have

 

I also would like to know about

A) Exercises (meditation exercises for example) to heighten my self-awareness/beccome more happy/getting in touch with my masculinity

And,

B) (Good to have) Tips for running a locationally-independent business, if there is such a thing 😀

 

Last but not least I’m here to seek out like minded people, who perhaps share the same problems, to grow with because this journey can be lonely sometimes

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